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(Disclaimer: Dudes, I want your opinions, too. I know there's, like: two of you who read my journal regularly. But don't feel left out if it seems I'm only talking to the ladies!)

The subject has come up elsewhere, and it's been on my mind recently: what is femininity? Is it the traditional, stereotypical traits that have historically been prized in women? (And in whose history?) Has the definition evolved significantly over time, or are we still stuck in an antiquated frame of mind? Which qualities are absolutely necessary in order to be considered feminine, and which are optional?

Are you offended when certain traits, interests, or qualities are described as masculine or feminine? As for myself, whenever I've taken any sort of "Male or Female" brain test, I've always skewed slightly toward the masculine side of the scale. (Including when I took such a test in college as a research participant for credit in my psychology class.) It does bother me when people say I "think like a guy", but I do realize that when it comes to science, they're speaking about statistical norms, which I'm cool with, because I like math. :P (Even though, as a child, I got much more attention for my writing abilities than I did my mathematical skill.)

(If anyone else is interested in taking a test based on "male vs. female" brain science, here's a really good one from the BBC. Save it for when you have some time, though, as there are multiple parts. Though I do believe you can save each section as you finish.)



[Poll #1749763]

Also, I'd like to know: how well do you fit into (what you perceive to be) your culture's definition of 'masculine' or 'feminine'? What do you think of others who are unable to adhere to your culture's rules? How many of the differences between men and women come from biology, and how many are culturally constructed?

I'll provide my own responses once I've had some sleep!

Date: 2011-06-08 04:53 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] alt_universe_me.livejournal.com
Okay, I finally took your poll! tbqh, I had been putting it off because I wasn't really sure how to answer. I identify as a woman, and I have no problem with my femininity (which wasn't always the case, but I'm not going to go into my extensive history of identity issues, lol). How I identify currently is definitely feminine. But I have also been told recently that I am like a geeky guy, so idk. I feel like a woman, and I like being a woman. I'm not sure how to really define it. I don't wear heels, jewelry or makeup, but I do wear short skirts, dresses, and nail polish. I have long blonde hair that I dye but I don't style. I shave my legs, but honestly I am so rubbish at it that my gf asked why I have nicks from shaving all over my legs. I'm pretty clumsy (which is the main reason for not wearing heels, lol). I like pink, but my favorite color to wear is blue, not because I'm challenging gender roles though--I just have blue eyes. I guess I just pick and choose?
I'm not interested in a lot of things considered stereotypically male, like sports. Although I do like to run and spend time outdoors--I just don't like to watch sports.
Between my gf and I, we joke that I am 'the girl' in the relationship. Not that I believe lesbian relationships need traditional gender roles, it's just the role I seem to fall into without trying. And I don't see anything wrong with being seen as 'the girl.'
As for emotions, as someone recovering from BPD, I'm not sure I can say my emotions are typical. But I do tend to wear my emotions on my sleeve.
I'm fairly decent with math and science when I have to be, but mostly arts and languages are what interest me. I would rather spend a day at an art museum or a lecture on linguistics than at, say, a monster truck rally or in a sports bar. I'm quite outdoorsy, but my idea of a good time is playing on the beach, not doing anything more extreme, like jetskis or something.

Um, this is all probably not that helpful. But if you have any questions for me, just ask!
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