*Muffled Screams*
Sep. 21st, 2010 11:52 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
apple_pathwaysSo today is turning out to be A Day of Frustration.
First, I keep getting phone calls from an unavailable number. When I picked up, a recording told me this was a message for "a cardholder" with information about lowering my interest rate. Please press "9" to speak to a live representative. I did so, and the woman asked, "Did you press '9' to lower your interest rate?" I said, "No, I pressed '9' to find out why you keep calling me" and then the call was disconnected.
I'm waiting on my financial aid refund, and I keep getting the runaround as to where it is and when it's coming. Business is slow and I don't have a lot of students at the moment, so I NEED THIS MONEY. I called three different offices on campus and got three different answers. The final result is that I have been assured the check is in the mail. Please, PLEASE let this be true!
Finally, my mother is driving me up a wall. After my brother told us he was getting married, she announced that "we" (me and her) were throwing his future wife a bridal shower. Right away, I told her this was not likely to happen, as she is a control freak who will expect to make all the decisions while I merely follow orders. She assured me that no, no it won't happen this way. She asked what I wanted to do, and I said I wanted to make the food.
Several times she's mentioned hiring a caterer, and several times I've assured her that no: I WANT TO MAKE THE FOOD. Today she insists I look at catering menus with her.
GAHHH!!!
You know what? I DO NOT CARE if she wants to go with a caterer! But I don't want to sit there and look through catering menus with her while she pretends to take my advice into account and then promptly ignores it and does whatever the hell she wants. I don't want to play that game! If she wants to make all the decisions herself, I don't care: HAVE AT IT! I just don't want the stress of coming up with suggestions she's just going to ignore anyway.
And now she's pouting like a child because I don't want to play her games. I am very, VERY tired of being the adult in our relationship.
ETA: I have taken a deep breath and made peace with The Mother. I have agreed to do/make the prizes and the decorations. She also suggested: "You can pick out the invitations; do you want to make them?" Me: "No, there's way too many people coming, that would be a huge pain in the neck." Mother: "They have these kits where you can design your own card and print out the information." Me: "Again, I think that's going to be too much work, especially since we don't have a printer that functions reliably." Mother: "You could just buy some blank invitations and decorate them..." Me: *has a massive coronary*
DEEP BREATHS!
First, I keep getting phone calls from an unavailable number. When I picked up, a recording told me this was a message for "a cardholder" with information about lowering my interest rate. Please press "9" to speak to a live representative. I did so, and the woman asked, "Did you press '9' to lower your interest rate?" I said, "No, I pressed '9' to find out why you keep calling me" and then the call was disconnected.
I'm waiting on my financial aid refund, and I keep getting the runaround as to where it is and when it's coming. Business is slow and I don't have a lot of students at the moment, so I NEED THIS MONEY. I called three different offices on campus and got three different answers. The final result is that I have been assured the check is in the mail. Please, PLEASE let this be true!
Finally, my mother is driving me up a wall. After my brother told us he was getting married, she announced that "we" (me and her) were throwing his future wife a bridal shower. Right away, I told her this was not likely to happen, as she is a control freak who will expect to make all the decisions while I merely follow orders. She assured me that no, no it won't happen this way. She asked what I wanted to do, and I said I wanted to make the food.
Several times she's mentioned hiring a caterer, and several times I've assured her that no: I WANT TO MAKE THE FOOD. Today she insists I look at catering menus with her.
GAHHH!!!
You know what? I DO NOT CARE if she wants to go with a caterer! But I don't want to sit there and look through catering menus with her while she pretends to take my advice into account and then promptly ignores it and does whatever the hell she wants. I don't want to play that game! If she wants to make all the decisions herself, I don't care: HAVE AT IT! I just don't want the stress of coming up with suggestions she's just going to ignore anyway.
And now she's pouting like a child because I don't want to play her games. I am very, VERY tired of being the adult in our relationship.
ETA: I have taken a deep breath and made peace with The Mother. I have agreed to do/make the prizes and the decorations. She also suggested: "You can pick out the invitations; do you want to make them?" Me: "No, there's way too many people coming, that would be a huge pain in the neck." Mother: "They have these kits where you can design your own card and print out the information." Me: "Again, I think that's going to be too much work, especially since we don't have a printer that functions reliably." Mother: "You could just buy some blank invitations and decorate them..." Me: *has a massive coronary*
DEEP BREATHS!
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Date: 2010-09-21 05:32 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-21 06:34 pm (UTC)I think they must get sponsorship or some sort of monthly payment to do such things.
*hugs*
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Date: 2010-09-22 03:33 am (UTC)Thanks for the hugs! I've had dinner and wine with a friend, and have pulled myself out of my stroppy teenage funk!
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Date: 2010-09-21 07:37 pm (UTC)I've been getting the run around on my financial aid as well. I was just told that it will be disbursed on October 11th. Grrrrr.
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Date: 2010-09-22 03:36 am (UTC)I'm just really irritated that the lady at the financial aid office (mistakenly) told me I would have to sign up with the university's credit card thingy deal in order to get my refund disbursed. I was going to tear someone's head off if that were true. DO NOT WANT!
Why October 11?! Haven't classes already started?
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Date: 2010-09-22 03:48 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-22 03:52 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-22 12:49 am (UTC)This sounds JUST LIKE my mother. It's so annoying. Most of the time I just end up letting her do whatever she wants because it's easier than arguing with her. Sometimes the only way to get through to her is to be very blunt and explain that no, I'm not going to do something because I don't want to, or no, I'm going to do it the way I want to do it and that's it.
*hugs*
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Date: 2010-09-22 03:38 am (UTC)Thanks for the commisseration! How are you? What's up in your world? You respond to my bitching enough, it was about time I asked!
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Date: 2010-09-24 02:47 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-09-24 05:22 am (UTC)