Exactly! I don't like the attitude that m/m sex is automatically more explicit than m/f sex. (I even see this attitude coming from the slashers themselves--the whole "LOL, het is so vanilla!" as if gay men can't have ordinary, everyday sex.)

Oh, ew-I haven't heard that recently, which I'm really thankful for.

I really do have a problem with that coming from slashers, almost even more than coming from non-slashers. It's okay to have a kink for male/male couplings (it's also okay to have it not be your thing personally!). It's not okay to imply that gay sex in and of itself is more 'naughty' or 'wrong' than heterosexual sex. Considering that they're then fetishizing gay pairings, it makes me feel really uncomfortable.

Also, it seems to be implying that no het pairings could ever be kinky, which is just incorrect!